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With her timeless beauty and elegant charm, Heart Evangelista doesn't look a day over thirty. But the Kapuso actress is very proud to be a wise 36-year-old. In her recent tell-all vlog, Heart enumerated some of the life lessons she's accumulated through the years.

She said, "As you know, I just turned 36 and it is such a blessing. Today, I wanted to share all the things that I've actually gone through in life. When I turned 30, I was actually so afraid of getting old. But now as I get older, I realized that you know, aging is such a blessing or privilege. But of course, aside from all of the other things, getting older is also about becoming wiser."

Heart spoke about learning how to let certain friends go. "Number one [life lesson] would probably be to lose some friends. I remember way back in high school and grade school I used to get bullied so much so I always had this yearning or I wish that I had more friends I always would change myself to belong or for people to accept me.

"I eventually joined showbiz and I've met people along the way that were very kind.

"You do meet people that come and go some will stay and at the end of the day I think it's all about having a core group you don't have to be somebody with a lot of friends for people to see that."

Her second advice led to her pondering about a past relationship that taught her a lot about what kind of partner she wanted to have. "Life lesson number two, be with someone who doesn't hold you back."

Heart also clarified a common misconception about her, "I did not have a lot of boyfriends. I did date a lot of guys and I'm fine. I'm glad I did. I've met so many people."

She then recalled a certain significant relationship, "I had a boyfriend that was so bad to me. He wasn't in showbiz. I hardly talk about him. But I really wanted it to work because I wanted to get over someone. But he was really cruel. I remember for how many years after, I couldn't go to a certain area in Manila because I was so traumatized he was controlling. My mom was in charge of my money then but he would tell me, 'You know, if we do end up together, you can't touch your money until you die. Only your kids can spend your money. And you have to live a simple life.

"That guy made it seem that the idea of me working wasn't really in the cards.

Heart added, "He would say that what I'm wearing is too revealing, that it's not lady-like or something like that. It was such a turn off. You have to be with somebody who will allow you to experiment. It's about getting to know yourself even more.

Presently, Heart is happily married and still evolving as a person, "Even if I'm 36,I'm still getting to know myself. I'm still discovering so many things about myself and you have to be with somebody who's on the same page or else you're stuck so you're not gonna grow.

"I look at Chiz and I respect him and his decisions because he is the man of the house. But he allows me to say what I want, he allows me to wear what I want, he allows me to work and be inspired. And because he's like that to me, I'm a happy person. Happy wife, happy life.

"I think it's really important that before you settle and get married you really need to get to know the person. If you feel like it's not the right time, it's all right, there's no judgment. [If] you want to break up and see the world, do what you need to do because at the end of the day you gotta end up with somebody that's not gonna control you, that's gonna make you bloom as a person.

Her third life lesson brought light to a dark time in her life when she dealt with a lot of emotional struggles. She said, "You know I spoke about mental illness and depression and anxiety. A lot of people actually know that I went through."

She continued, "It's really okay to not be okay and to ask for help and actually forgive yourself for feeling a certain way.

"I thought my accessories, my bags would give me a purpose to live. I didn't know how I got into that black hole and I remember thinking of the worst things. I felt I was left with no choice but to kind of end things. It was really that bad. Now I can talk about it, and I'm so glad that I'm out of it.

Heart narrated how she found treatment for the tough time in her past and how there should be no shame in seeking help. "I saw a doctor and I even took certain medicine for that time and I'm not ashamed to say that because I'm in a better place now.

"So if you're going through something don't be ashamed.

Watch the rest of her top life lessons vlog here: