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Ghosting is a way to break off a relationship without any communication or warning. While this breakup strategy isn't really new, it's becoming more and more prevalent.

The desirable guises of men like Ruru Madrid, Derrick Monasterio, and Benjamin Alves may give them the imagined upper hand to just abruptly end relationships, but the three Kapuso hunks agree that ghosting isn't just the best way to end relationships.

Ruru Madrid, Derrick Monasterio and Benjamin Alves

Ruru believes that it is a very unmannered act for men to do.

He explains, “Siguro kapag babae ang gumawa, understandable. Pero 'pag lalaki gumawa nun, it's very ungentleman. I mean hindi naman ako magpapaka-good boy na sobrang bait na tao pero parang kung gusto mong humanap ng someone or 'pag hindi ka na happy sa relationship mo, better to talk. It's better maging maganda 'yung communication niyong dalawa. Hindi 'yung wala na, ma-sa-stop na lang.

“Hindi naman natin mapipigilan. Sometimes, may mafi-feel ka na something na parang 'Okay, wala na talaga. Gusto ko na isuko 'to,' pero kailangan mo siya kausapin,” he adds.

He also claims to understand if ladies would do it as he has experienced being ghosted before.

READ: Ruru Madrid admits ghosting a past budding romance

Ruru says, “Kaysa mag-suffer pa sila ng mas matinding pain, eh 'di at least 'yun mababawasan na kapag tinigilan na nila 'yung pakikipag-usap. And baka that's their way kung paano sila mag-move on, naiintindihan ko.”

Meanwhile, Derrick and Benjamin also admit to being on both sides of the fence and learning from the experience.

Derrick shares, “Siyempre it's not good. It's not good if you do it to someone, it's not good if someone does that to you. For me, don't do it if you don't want a person to do it to you, too. Golden rule.

Benjamin also agrees saying, “That hurts, to be ghosted. I've been on both ends, I'd just leave it at that. It's not good either way. It's something not to do again and not to ever [be] done to you again. It's very random 'no, you'd just don't know.”