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‘Ghosting’ can lead to depression, expert warns


With Valentine's Day just around the corner, here's a reminder to be careful with your heart.

In Oscar Oida's Thursday report on 24 Oras, experts warned romantics against the possible effects of being "ghosted" or being left behind without a word.

"Depression will set in, the helplessness, the hopelessness. Bakit ako iniwan? Wala ba ako kwenta? Bakit? Ano? Okay naman ako. Sinisisi yung sarili nila," Estrella Magno, a psychologist, said.

To avoid this, Magno said individuals should keep watch for red flags.

"Lahat ng mga babae tinitignan, lahat ng bago, thrilled siya to be aware of. Tapos alam mo na anything new is exciting for him, alam mo na, you have to be careful," she said.

According to a cultural analyst, the Filipino's tendency to ghost their partners may be due to their shy nature.

"Hindi kasi tayo prangka minsan, eh. Ayaw natin masaktan, ayaw natin makasakit, kaya tinatago na lang natin. Gusto mo na lang mag-disappear," Professor Jimuel Naval said.

However, for Magno, this may be related to an individual's upbringing.

"Batang-bata ang isip. As I said, very immature. Maybe the parents were absent not only physically but emotionally, psychologically," Magno explained.

Ghosters and ghostees

Sienna Calanog felt like her very own Disney princess when her seeming prince charming proposed to her in New York City.

However, her fairy tale love story turned into a horror movie after her fiance disappeared without a word a few days after the proposal.

"After that, sobrang wala nang kasunod. Walang ni-ha, ni-ho, wala akong narinig. I tried to reach him sa lahat ng paraan na magagawa ko. Emails, sa social media, blinock niya ko," Calanog said.

Months later, Calanog found out through social media that her fiance is now with another woman.

"Akala ko lang nag soul-searching siya pero gino-ghosting na pala niya ko," Calanog said.

Though the term ghosting was only recently made popular, leaving partners behind without a word has always been a trend, according to the report.

Meanwhile, tricycle driver Norlen Samson, dubbed "sweet lover," turned out to be a "ghost rider" due to the many women he has courted and left behind.

"Kahit mag-text hindi ko na ina-ano. Hinahayaan ko na lang siya. Kumbaga, bahala na," Samson said.

"Eh, siyempre yung harap-harapan makikita mo pang umiiyak 'yung babae, di ba? Eh, 'yun hindi ko na makikita," he added.

Former ghostee Ralph Capital said they now watch out for the ghoster signs.

"Pagka-sobrang madalang na rin sila mag reply, titignan ko kung gaano sila katagal mag-reply tapos ganoon din sakin, tapos until nakalimutan ok na," he said. —Joahna Lei Casilao/LDF, GMA News