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Chesca, Doug Kramer maintain controversial ‘wives should submit to husbands’ stance


Chesca and Doug Kramer are standing by a controversial post on social media claiming that wives should submit to their husbands.

During their first appearance as new endorsers of a local toothpaste brand on Tuesday, the heads of the Kramer household told the press that their focus is not on the criticism.

"We've already addressed that on social media and I think what matters most at the end of the day is that we're united as a family. Everybody has seen how we are and that stays true," Chesca said.

"You take it as you go. You can't please everybody," Doug said of the negative reactions. "We try and be a blessing to people, that's the most important thing, 'di ba?"

The controversial post is a direct quote from Colossians 3:18-25, which reads:

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to curry their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for their wrongs, and there is no favoritism.

 

 

Instructions for Christian Households Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Slaves (Servants... The people who work for you or can apply to you as an employee), obey your earthly masters (your boss or you as a boss) in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to curry their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for their wrongs, and there is no favoritism. - Colossians 3:18-25

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This stirred debate in the comments, with one side calling for a gender-fair household and the other defending the notion of submission as a Christian value.

Chesca later edited the post on Facebook to include an explanation for her stance.

"When God established marriage and the roles of husband and wives he did not make us any less or inferior to each other. We are created equal but we have different responsibilities," Chesca wrote. "In a corporation what would happen if you had 2 CEO’s? Would the company run smoothly? Of course there are designated roles and responsibilities."

"With that said, my husband and I work hand is hand with everything. My husband leads the family but he consults me in everything. My opinion and my [decisions] matter as much as his does. I respect him as the head and I submit because he doesn't abuse this privilege given to him. We see eye to eye because we look at the same direction and that is to please and honor the Lord... Everything follows after that," she added.

Doug echoed the CEO metaphor in his own post. He clarified that they are not a perfect family, but explained that they try to make their relationship as husband and wife work and they also want to perform their roles as parents well, which is why they turn to the Bible.

"I never treat or make Chesca feel she is inferior to me. In fact, I make her feel more important than myself. But this doesn't take away my leadership and stand to lead my family. And I mean this in all aspects, I choose to lead my family financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually," Doug clarified.

"And guess who is my partner when I fall short at times? My wife. She gives life to our family. She gives me motivation to be the best father and husband to my family. So is a wife's role just as important as a husband? Yes! But do they have the same roles? No!" he added.

Doug explained that Chesca's submission does not mean she stops being visible and productive. Her business ventures and the partnerships she makes are proof "that submission to your husband doesn't mean you also stop existing," Doug shared.

Doug and Chesca both declared that they understand that roles can be reversed. "As long as they agree wholeheartedly with their roles and are happy with it. I do not see anything wrong with it," Chesca wrote.

The couple additionally told the press on Tuesday that the secret to their marriage is having just one third party: Jesus Christ.

Doug and Chesca have been together since 2003 and were married in 2008. — Aya Tantiangco/BM, GMA News

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