Summer flings, yay or nay? Papa Kiko and Chikotita give their say

April 29 2014

Radio personalities now have an all-encompassing presence on air. They not only play your favorite songs. Nowadays, you can ring them and ask advice for all your existential questions in life.

Barangay LS 97.1 DJs Papa Kiko and Chikotita have been around for quite some time. They are no strangers to strange questions, especially love-related ones.

Now that summer has come around, everything is just more sizzling and temptations loom in every corner. It’s the time of the year when the temperature rises for wild pursuits such as summer flings. Are they worth the thrill?

Papa Kiko says that summer flings have been around for ages. In this social media age where everything has a tag, “summer fling” has become the definitive label for a summer-long, non-commital “relationship”.

For him, summer flings are okay as long as you know your limitations. He elaborates, “Ingatan mo lang ang sarili mo. Be responsible kasi individual values pa rin ang pinakaimportante.”

“Hindi mo puwedeng sisihin ang paligid mo, so kung napi-peer pressure ka, huwag mo nang gawin. Kung gusto mo talaga, be careful. I-enjoy mo lang, pero marami pang bagay na puwedeng gawin besides that,” he adds, suggesting new summer sports or activities.

Chikotita also gives a word of advice to the youth who usually engage in this kind of set-up. He says, “Sa mga kabataan ngayon, dapat alam niyong kontrolin ang sarili ninyo. Kasi ‘di ba, nagbibigay ng saya sa iyo iyang mga summer fling na iyan. Napapangiti ka niyan. Pero tandaan niyo, ‘pag kayo-kayo lang at walang guidance ng parents, delikado iyan. Ingatan niyo ang mga sarili ninyo.”

Summer flings are undoubtedly fun, but in the heat of summer and emotions, both parties should know that if it sizzles, it will fizzle. Expectations should not exist as they could lead to attachment, which is a very dangerous thing. Remember that the goal is to enjoy and not hurt each other.

Chikotita advises,“Ang importante, basta bata pa kayo, mag-aral kayo. Tapos ‘pag nagwowork na kayo, hanapin niyo si God doon sa taong gusto niyo kasi hinding-hindi kayo magsisisi at hinding-hindi kayo magkakamali. The fact na iyong nahanap niyong tao na iyon ay God-fearing, rerespetuhin nila kayo gaya ng respeto nila sa magulang nila.”

Life is filled with bountiful possibilities that go beyond summer flings. The transitory, momentary happiness that summer flings give may be the stuff that good memories are made of. Treasure these memories, but value the more important things in life, like your goals. There is no hard and fast rule for happiness. The challenge is to go out there, face the world and get it.

-Text by Samantha Portillo, Photo by Bochic Estrada, GMANetwork.com