Andi Eigenmann describes her life as a mom in showbiz

Andi Eigenmann shared what she went through as a mother to Ellie, Lilo and Koa.

Andi shared some details about motherhood, parenting, and reacting to what people say in her special feature of GMA News called Honor All Moms.

Andi said, "Ako 'yung friend na hindi mo ma-i-imagine na magkakaroon ng anak or na magiging mom. It was really not in my mind to become a mother or get married or anything like that like just have a family."

The mom of three, she was initially confused about how she sees her future before she became a mom.

"I was still just thinking of who I wanted to become or what I wanted to make of myself. Confused pa ako kung sino ako as a person."

When Ellie came at the peak of her career, she thought of what type of mom she will be.

"It was not so compatible with the type of mother I wanted to become. I wanted to be this hands-on mom. Raising another human being is a serious job and I just felt like there's no room for failure."

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The celebrity mom admitted she faced judgments for being pregnant before getting married. She said Ellie was just born and she's already hearing different things said to her by the public.

"I was 21 years old, I'm not married and I'm in the public's eye. Especially we live in a Catholic country and we're traditional in some ways so it was hard for me because I was still figuring out how to be a good mom. Kakalabas pa lang ng anak ko, I was already facing judgment and criticism."

She added that those comments affected her mental health, "I would hear these things that people have to say about me that were not really so nice, and that would be damaging to my mental health.

"Like imagine, when I gave birth via cesarean section, right, so it was a major operation, I had not gotten a good look at Ellie and I woke up and she was already on the news, her face! Everybody already saw her!"

As a young mom, she felt the need to quit showbiz. During that time, she was juggling her career as an actress, her life as a mom and her relationship with Ellie's father, Jake Ejercito.

"We were both so young and immature. I don't wanna speak on his behalf but I felt, mas inuna ko 'yung problem namin, than seeing eye-to-eye for our daughter. I was young and I was a different person back then."

When it comes to co-parenting with Jake, she said that she doesn't compare.

"Hindi ako 'yung type of parent na parang "Bakit ang saya niya sa dad?” No. Hindi ako nagseselos. Walang ganun. Hindi competition for me. For me, it's better to know that she's also as happy, that she loves her dad as much as she loves me."

Not acting on impulse is something that Andi has learned as a mom.

"I always acted on impulse and I feel that's what led to my relationship with Jake
being so hard and being quite toxic. I wanted to make sure that I learn how to handle my emotions better. So 'pag naiinis ako sa mga anak ko, hindi ko sila sisigawan. Gusto ko nang sumigaw pero hinding-hindi ko idi-direct sa kanila. I can show them and I can let them know that, 'Hey, I'm struggling, you guys. I'm having a tough time. Please understand. You have to behave.' Parang ganyan."

Andi and Philmar Alipayo agreed on their roles to their stepchildren.

"Me and Philmar are not required or forced to be mom and dad to our stepchildren. Ellie, she has a dad of her own and Philmar isn't there to be her dad. They just have a good friendship and that's more than enough.

"It's the same with Philmar's kids. I actually have not met his 6-year-old Kanoa because he lives in France with his mom. Toro who's just here, he also has a mom. It's more about fully accepting and welcoming them into my life, not my family because it's not mine. It's ours. It's all of ours."

One part of the video said what she learned when it comes to parenting and relationships.

"If you just accept life as is and be grateful for what you already have, it's easier to be kuntento and be happy."

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