How to recover from a painful breakup

Once more, social media was taken by storm with the recent breakup of celebrity couple LJ Reyes and Paolo Contis.

And almost instantly, people were quick to take sides accordingly.

This has been a common scenario in the entertainment industry where a celebrity breakup can become an instant talk of the town.

However, we must look beyond the "entertainment" value of this situation and focus on the real issue at hand: that people involved are hurting in their own space.

Celebrity life coach Myke Celis, who has coached a number of celebrities and top executives going through relationship problems, is quick to point this out.

"No breakup is easy. A lot of emotions involved. A lot of pain. And sometimes, if a celebrity couple is involved, expect the rest of the society to pitch in," he said.

He noted that this only adds to the pressure and pain which the ex-couples are already experiencing.

Coach Myke said, "The least they need right now are the judgments from random people who don't even know them or those who haven't had a significant role in their relationship to begin with. That's the thing about being celebrities: the public thinks that it has the right to access even their personal relationship struggles."

However, space is what these people involved truly need at the moment.

The celebrity life coach explained, "We tend to forget that despite their stature, celebrities are also human beings. They need time and space to process everything accordingly on their own so they can eventually heal. So we must always respect their choices of staying silent amidst trying times. Let us not equate silence with cowardice because truth be told, it's actually a sign of strength as the people involved focus on themselves and their needs."

Coach Myke, who is also an international best-selling author himself, adds to this list of things that must be done in order to recover from a break-up, "Utilize the time and space that you give yourself to grieve, reflect, and accept the situation at hand.

"Stop blaming yourself or the other party. Instead, come from a space of self-love and understanding and gradually try to forgive yourself and your ex.

"What can help here is to ask yourself these: What benefit will I get from hating the other person? What could be good about this break-up? Allowing yourself to view things in another perspective helps you heal from within. Don't let the opinions of others distract you from healing within."

He also stressed the importance of finding the right support during recovery.

"Keep your family and true friends close. Don't force yourself to pretend that everything's ok when it's not. Know that there are a lot of people who will be willing to listen to you and support you in your trying times.

"When things are too much for you to take, it is also advised that you seek the help of a mental health professional so that you get to process things clearly and you don't find yourself wallowing in depression."

The celebrity life coach reminds everyone to move on and forward in their own space and pace.

"You don't have to hurry healing. One step at a time. One day at a time. Start all over again by making that choice of putting yourself and your needs first. Do things which inspire you, learn more about yourself and your journey and be with people who bring out your best. Take your time until you're ready to start all over again, by choice, he concluded.

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