Andrea Torres on getting over heartbreak: 'Kailangan mo siyempre i-embrace 'yung process'
A netizen asked for advice about moving on and getting over heartbreak from the lead stars of upcoming family drama Legal Wives during their stint on Kapuso ArtisTambayan last June 8.
Kapuso Drama King Dennis Trillo, Alice Dixson, Andrea Torres and Bianca Umali joined Kapuso fans online for a night of fun and chikahan.
A netizen called Michelle sent in her question to the group, asking for ways to get over heartbreak. According to Michelle, everything reminds her of her ex-boyfriend and it has reached the point where she cannot even enjoy the things she used to like.
Dennis jumped right in and gave his two cents.
"Kalimutan na niya 'yung mga lumang memories na 'yun at gumawa siya ng mga bago. Kung binabalik-balikan lang niya 'yung mga masasakit na alaala na 'yun, walang mangyayari sa kanya. Nandoon lang siya sa estado na 'yun, hindi siya makaka-move on. Ang payo ko sa kanya, maghanap na siya ng iba, gumawa siya ng bagong memories tapos kalimutan na niya 'yung mga luma na 'yun kasi tapos na 'yun," he said.
Andrea then expressed the importance of embracing the process of healing.
"Ang imporatnte talaga diyan, kailangan mo siyempre i-embrace 'yung process. Proseso 'yan 'di ba? At ang una doon, kailangan may acceptance ka. Once na-accept mo at na-reflect mo 'yung nangyari sa relasyon, makuha mo 'yung learnings doon sa relasyon then pwede ka nang mag-move on," she explained.
She also suggested focusing on the positive aspects of both the relationship and the breakup.
"Kailangan mong tulungan 'yung sarili mo. Kailangan mas mag-focus ka doon sa positive. Huwag kang mag-focus doon sa 'Ay hindi nag-work.' Mas isipin mo na kaya ito nangyari kasi mayroon 'tong magagawa for me. It's for my growth. May mas malaking plan, may mangyayari pang maganda sa akin. Gano'n dapat ang mindset mo," Andrea shared.
Meanwhile, Bianca reminded people not to blame themselves should a relationship end up not working out.
"A reminder is that it's okay not to be okay. Tama na we should respect the process and do not stay there. Huwag mong hayaan 'yung sarili mo na malugmok ka sa kalungkutan at huwag na wag mong iisipin na ikaw ang problema. Love yourself, move on and be happy because life goes on," she said.
Alice then reiterated that rebound relationships are not a healthy way of coping or moving on.
"Sabi kasi ng friend ko, it takes one to forget one. But the thing is, when you do that, hindi mo binibigyan ang puso mo ng time to heal and also to recover and become whole again. Usually kasi sobra na 'yung binibigay mo doon sa loved one mo and siyempre if he does not reciprocate, you feel empty inside," she explained.
She also encouraged those who are experiencing heartbreak to not rush into a new relationship just to fill that void.
"I think the best thing is to find other things na pwede mong pagkaabalahan. Educate yourself, hangout with your friends, do things that you enjoy to make yourself happy. And then when you least expect it, darating 'yung prince charming mo," Alice said.
Check out more of their love and relationship advice during their stint on Kapuso ArtisTambayan: