Just because you're buying dinner doesn't mean you're entitled to more

The truth is a bitter pill to swallow, so these days, what once was "basted" has been sugarcoated "friendzone."

In an episode of "Adulting", Atom Araullo introduced several spin-offs to this concept: There's "seenzone" and "kuyazone" — all painful places to be in for people who are pining over someone.

Atom commiserates, but there's room for #realtalk about expectations between two people who are spending time and slowly getting to know each other.

Here, Atom makes a very important point. Allow us to highlight: 

"May mga lalake, medyo nagiging male privilege siya. Porke't niligawan ko 'tong babaeng ito, porke't nilibre ko ng dinner, porke't hinahatid ko sa bahay...feeling mo obligated silang sagutin ka. Hindi naman tama 'yon — both for girls and boys."

There's a song you can check out by Flight of the Conchords called "A Kiss is Not a Contract" and that goes for the little gifts you might get for someone you have a crush on.

Again: The effort you make doesn't automatically mean you can demand someone to feel a certain way about you. 

Kristine, Atom's guest who outed herself as someone who got friendzoned, advised people to refrain from making assumptions. "Huwag tayong mag-assume, para hindi tayo masaktan."

And if your feelings aren't being reciprocated, Kristine's tip is to quit while you're ahead. "Hindi masamang mag-effort, pero kung wala naman na, itigil mo na. Kasi masasaktan ka lang kung patuloy mo pa siyang gugustuhin, e 'di ka naman talaga niya gusto."

"Paganda ka, besh," she said. 

Atom added you can actually be more open and ask questions. "Huwag ka nang mahiyang magtanong. Kung, kunwari, ilang buwan na rin naman kayong nagkikita o nag-uusapan, may karapatan ka ring magtanong." — LA, GMA News