Heart Evangelista shares how self-love can be empowering

Heart Evangelista continues to inspire women as she spearheads Kotex Luxe's Love Yourself A Little More campaign.

Heart Evangelista with other influencers during the Kotex Luxe's virtual discussion / Source: Kotex PH (FB)

In a virtual discussion titled “Love Yourself Live! How Self-Love Can Save You,” the Queen of Creative Collaborations once again emphasized the importance of self-love and how it can help women feel more empowered and genuinely happy.

Heart began by acknowledging the fact that her insecurities made her a people pleaser when she was younger.

And now that she's learned to accept, love, and express her authentic self, it has made her so much happier. She encourages everyone to do the same.

“When I was young, I would have so much insecurities.

"You know, I was such a people pleaser. I mean, I still am because I want to make people happy, but I make sure to make time to make myself happy.

"And I really prioritize that and I'm not sorry about that because it makes such a huge difference.

“We all have problems. We all have our crosses to carry. So many people to take care of, yung family, yung friends, and everybody that relies on you.

“But it really makes such a huge difference. You just pause and you take time for yourself, and you'll be surprised (of the) many other beautiful things you could do for other people when you put yourself first and when you love yourself.”

Asked what happiness meant for her, Heart said a big part of it has to do with learning the art of acceptance whenever things don't go your way.

“You just have to accept the things you cannot change, the things that are really frustrating, and you just have to go with the flow.

“There are so many problems. Sometimes, you feel that it's never-ending. But, honestly, this too shall pass. Sometimes things frustrate you, again, you just have to accept that it is what it is.

“But there are other things you could do to make you happy. You can take another route, 'di ba? Some things will just end up to be perfectly the way it is for you. So, that's just how it is."

Heart also talked about how she always looks at the brighter side of things, even when she had to deal with what she calls “the worst thing that could ever happen,” the time she lost her twins.

“I always see the beauty in a situation, for example, this situation says 'no' to me, I honestly haven't cried about something like that since--I know it's a bit serious but--when I had a miscarriage and I used to plan my life out so much.

“Like, 'Okay, when I'm aged this, I'm gonna ganyan-ganyan. When I'm aged this, I'm gonna have this, I'm gonnna have that.'

“I really planned my marriage and I remember on the second month I got pregnant and I had twins. First, I lost the first baby, then the second baby.

“I was so, so depressed (and) so, so sad. But after that, I didn't even question God. I didn't even doubt. I didn't even have fault. I had nothing.

“I had nothing bad to say, no questions whatsoever, because sometimes you just have to trust that it is for a reason.

“Even if you feel it's for a bad reason or 'Am I a bad person?' No. It'll always be for a good reason.”

According to Heart, the doctor told her that she was experiencing what was called the vanishing twin syndrome, which can cause a lot of complications to the remaining baby.

She's learned to see losing her babies as a silver lining, that her second baby was spared from physical pain.

“That's why I said, 'Okay. I'm not gonna question, you know, and I accept this.' After that, everything else in my life I've accepted with a smile. Maybe with a sad heart, but I'm hopeful.”

“Sometimes if you dwell so much about something that you're not really supposed to dwell on, you're gonna miss your next flight to your (next) destination.”

Everything that Heart has gone through in life has taught her the importance of acceptance and embracing the new path that life has presented her.

More importantly, she's learned to love herself more. Because when you love and take care of yourself, you can be at your best, and you can do more for the people you love.

You might also want to read about the new music that Heart will be dropping soon.