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In a two part post, Liza Diño, wife of Ice Seguerra, revealed the struggle they have been facing together for the last three months. It was about Ice's depression and how they have been dealing with it.

Liza began her post with how she's happy that Ice is out of the house tor the third time in a week. She then went on to reveal that the last few months have been quite a struggle because the manifestation of Ice's depression have become more intense.

"Depression is something that he's had ever since, but through the years, we've been able to manage it."

Liza admitted that she used to handle it badly until she realized that he was saying the worse things when what a person suffering from depression really need is to be acknowledged of their struggle.

"I didn't know then that what he was expecting from me is to recognize that his feelings are valid, and the only way I can help is to genuinely ask him how he is feeling and for me to be there to listen to him."

According to Liza, words like "Do you want to talk about it?", "I'm just here when you're ready to talk," "What can I do to help today?" and "How are you managing?" helps Ice feel at ease and open up.

"Once he starts sharing his feelings, you can't help but feel bad kasi sometimes 'yung utak mo iniisip, 'bakit sya malungkot eh nandito naman ako?' Bakit, hindi ba ako enough?' Pero you have to realize na it's not about you. It's about them and what they feel, and it has nothing to do with you."

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LOVING AND DEPRESSION (PART 1) He's out again...for the third time this week. 😍 Iba ang saya ko pag nakikita kong lumalabas ang asawa ko that's why you see lately, I've been posting pictures of us together, kasi I'm so happy na ok na sya ulit. The last few months have been rough for ice and me. You see, Ice has depression, and the last three months have been challenging because mas naging intense yung manifestations nung depression nya. Lagi syang tulog. He doesn't have the drive to do anything creative. Ayaw nya sa araw. Gusto nya lagi lang madilim ang paligid. Depression is something that he's had ever since, but through the years, we've been able to manage it. I used to be so bad at dealing with it. I actually sucked. I didn't realize then that I was saying the worse things you can say to a depressed person... Words like "Tulungan mo kasi ang sarili mong maging masaya" or "Ikaw lang ang nagpapalungkot sa sitwasyon mo" or "It's all in your mind." Yup, that was me. I thought I was helping him by saying those things to "cheer him up." I didn't realize na all the more siyang nadedepress kasi hindi mo inaacknowledge yung pinagdadaanan nya at the moment. I didn't know then that what he was expecting from me is to recognize that his feelings are valid, and the only way I can help is to genuinely ask him how he is feeling and for me to be there to listen to him. "Do you want to talk about it?" "I'm just here when you're ready to talk." "What can I do to help today?" "How are you managing?" These words help to make him feel at ease to open up because you're not forcing it out from him. Hindi sya madali. Once he starts sharing his feelings, you can't help but feel bad kasi sometimes yung utak mo iniisip "bakit sya malungkot eh nandito naman ako?", " Bakit, hindi ba ako enough?" Pero you have to realize na it's not about you. It's about them and what they feel, and it has nothing to do with you. (To be continued...)

A post shared by Liza Diño-Seguerra (@lizadino) on Jul 24, 2020 at 10:22pm PDT

"That's where we've been these past three months. It was tough. There are good days and bad days. But we both confronted it head-on. When he's weak, I become his strength. When I'm weak, he is my strength.

"We recognize our faults, and we readily admit when one is falling short on being there for each other. Sa totoo lang, may ugali ako, I have a hard time saying sorry esp pag alam kong tama ako, but he's made realize that our goal as a couple is not about being right but being happy--Dapat walang pride. We know we are not perfect, but we know our love for each other is true and pure.

"I really didn't plan to share this personal journey; I'm dealing with my own share of personal struggles right now. But today, just seeing him happy and seeing him smile again. That joy in his face because he feels he is back to his usual self is enough to wash away my own worries.

"We are ok. It's going to be ok."

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LOVING AND DEPRESSION (PART 2) At ito yung mas mahirap. Yung makarating dun sa feeling na di mo iisiping ikaw yung dahilan nang pagiging malungkot nila. Kasi ang tendency mo, isipin kung ano ang pagkukulang mo? Anong hindi mo, nagagawa? Then the feeling of guilt will start to creep in. "Baka, I'm too busy for him." "I'm prioritizing my work over him." "Maybe I'm not giving him enough attention." This is the struggle. To find that balance. To not feel guilty, esp when you really are busy. That you're really prioritizing work, and you think you're not giving him enough attention. That's where we've been these past three months. It was tough. There are good days and bad days. But we both confronted it head-on. When he's weak, I become his strength. When I'm weak, he is my strength. Kapag kailangan kong iiyak, he is there to hug me as I cry on his shoulders, assuring me that I am not alone. When he feels anxious and agitated, I hold his hand tight and breathe with him. I don't let go until he's feeling better, and his hand starts warming up again. We recognize our faults, and we readily admit when one is falling short on being there for each other. Sa totoo lang, may ugali ako, I have a hard time saying sorry esp pag alam kong tama ako, but he's made realize that our goal as a couple is not about being right but being happy--Dapat walang pride. We know we are not perfect, but we know our love for each other is true and pure. I really didn't plan to share this personal journey; I'm dealing with my own share of personal struggles right now. But today, just seeing him happy and seeing him smile again. That joy in his face because he feels he is back to his usual self is enough to wash away my own worries. We are ok. It's going to be ok. Thank you love for encouraging me to write this. I love you so much. And always remember, in those times when can't help but feel alone, I AM HERE FOR YOU. Simula ngayon, tayong dalawa na. Habambuhay.

A post shared by Liza Diño-Seguerra (@lizadino) on Jul 24, 2020 at 10:24pm PDT

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