What to do when you see your ex for the first time after breakup? Psychologist answers

Are you prepared if you suddenly bump into your ex for the first time after your breakup?

In an episode of "Surprise Guest with Pia Arcangel," psychologist and "Share Ko Lang" host Dr. Anna Tuazon gave some pieces of advice so you can get ready should this happen.

"It really depends, 'no? If I can share, that happened to me. I saw him in a store as I was going down the escalator from shopping malls," Anna said.

She said she went, "Oh, my God" and ran away.

"It depends on the context, 'di ba? Parang kung wala na talaga sa 'yo, and you know you can control yourself, 'di ba, manage your emotions, hindi ka kinakabahan. And then, nagkakitaan na kayo. Parang too late to back out. 'Di ba?" she said.

Anna advised to just say hi and move on.

"Kung talagang hindi naman siya in your life, huwag ka na mangamusta, kamusta ka na. No need to update," she said.

She also said that the nervous feeling we get does not mean that we still like them.

"A lot of people mistake that na, 'Ay, baka gusto ko pa siya. Baka gusto ko makipagbalikan. Kasi bakit may feelings ako nung nakita ko siya.' Ang tawag natin dyan sa psychology, spontaneous recovery of feeling. So, ano 'to? Phantom. It's a phantom emotion. It's a ghost. OK? Ghost lang 'yan," she said.

"Hindi nga ibig sabihin na hindi ka pa naka-move on. Just because you feel something. Especially when you haven't seen them in a long time," she added.

She said that there is usually a spontaneous recovery when seeing that person again for the first time.

"Kasi suddenly everything comes back to you. Kasi that was the last time you encountered this person eh. So, it's normal. I wanna normalize it for people. It doesn't mean anything," she said.

"Huwag n'yong basahin pa siya. Don't read into it too much. Shake it off. 'Di ba? At 'pag wala kayong nagawang embarrassing or cringy, pat yourself on the back," she added. "Treat yourself with something afterwards. And then, i-chika niya na lang with your friends. Oh my God. Alam mo ba sino nakita ko? 'Di ba? Parang just use that na lang as an outlet."